Sunday, June 16, 2013

Happy Father's Day


For dressing up even when you didn't want to...

For always making us laugh...

For enduring the water park when you're more of a lay in the sand kind of guy...

For loving me and our children...

For being mostly patient when building wooden derby cars with the kids...

For cutting up things that I can't and for using your husband-sized strength...

For catering to my whims of hanging pictures with velcro...
For all those things and many more, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to the greatest dad and husband in the world!

Friday, June 14, 2013

The Gratitude Project

My one word for this year is Gratitude, being thankful to God for all he has given me.  Join me in the Gratitude Project every Thursday.  I list what I'm thankful for and you tell me what you're thankful for.






  1. I told you that I visited a chiropractor for a massage earlier this week.  Today, I'm thankful that I felt really good on Wed.  I was able to do a fair amount of chores without being in too much pain.
  2. I'm thankful that both kids are in camps this week and I get a few hours to blog while I'm home alone.
  3. I'm thankful that I have a washer and dryer and it can make my life easier when trying to get clothes washed and ready to be packed.
Julie and I are headed off to camp this weekend for 5 days of tween craziness, or maybe that's just my view on things.  Anyway, we expect to have lots of fun and to be insanely tired when we return.  I'll post some pictures next week.

What's on your plate for the weekend?

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Booksneeze: A Matter of Trust

A Matter of Trust (A Mia Quinn Mystery)


I received a complementary Kindle version of this book from the Booksneeze program in exchange for an honest review.

(Book description from the Booksneeze website)

When life is murder, who can you trust?
One minute Mia Quinn is in her basement, chatting on the phone with a colleague at the prosecutor’s office. The next minute there’s a gunshot over the line, and Mia listens in horror as her colleague and friend Colleen bleeds to death.
Mia’s a natural for heading up the murder investigation, but these days she has all she can do to hold her life together. As a new widow with a pile of debts, a troubled teenaged son, and a four-year-old who wakes up screaming at night, she needs more time with her family, not less—and working Colleen’s case will be especially demanding. But Colleen was her friend, and she needs to keep her job. So she reluctantly teams up with detective Charlie Carlson to investigate Colleen’s death. But the deeper they dig, the more complications unfold—even the unsettling possibility that someone may be coming after her.
Lis Wiehl’s signature plot twists and relatable characters shine in this absorbing series debut . . . with an intriguing cameo from her best-selling Triple Threat series.

My Thoughts

I loved Lis Wiehl's earlier Triple Threat series.  But I love this book even more.  Wiehl does a great job of capturing all sides of the central character.  We see her struggle to raise her children by herself and make mistakes along the way.  We see her fail and cower and weep. But we also see her pick herself up again both at home and in her new job.  She's such a real person, you just want to run over to her house and give her a big hug and tell her everything will be OK.

A Matter of Trust has a little bit of everything - parenting, intrigue, a budding romance, and most of all, a murder mystery.  Let's not forget that the main point of the book is to solve a murder, and Wiehl does it in style.  I was on the edge of my seat the whole time, wanting to keep reading to figure it all out.  There are so many possible culprits that you will keep guessing until the very end.  

There is really nothing bad I can say about this book, except for the fact that there isn't a sequel...yet.  

I give A Matter of Trust 5 out of 5 stars.

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Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Alternative Medicine: Chiropractors, are they worth trying?

Dreamstime stock photo - source
Other posts in this series:
What is an alternative medicine doctor and what do they do?
What testing do you get when you choose alternative medicine?
What is a detox diet and why do you do it?
What supplements and shakes do they recommend?
Results of the food sensitivities testing.
What kind of therapy did my osteopath recommend?

I kind of visited a new doctor yesterday.  I say, kind of, because I really went in to get a massage, not to get a medical consultation.

But let's go back to the beginning.

Since about September of last year, I have been getting regular medical massages every two or three weeks.  What that means is that I go and pay someone to press really hard on all the trigger points (muscle knots) that I have.  My pain condition, myofascial pain syndrome, causes me to have many, many of these spots.  They get so entrenched in my muscles and fascia that they cause my whole muscle to stay contracted.  When the muscle is contracted long enough, it starts to spasm.

I want to do everything I can not to get to the spasm point.  Out of everything I've tried, massages are the most effective in getting rid of trigger points.  I guess I feel a little guilty at times about telling people that I get a massage every two weeks.  People tend to look at me as if I'm a little too pampered.  So I just wanted to get the background out there to let you know that these aren't "feel good" massages.  They are not relaxing.  They hurt and they continue to hurt for several days afterward.  But then I feel better and I can move better and I can function better, at least for a short time.

The guy that I was getting massages from was great.  He was a former biology teacher in Rwanda.  During their civil wars, he brought his family to the US and decided to go to massage school.  Both of those (biology and massage school) made him very knowledgeable in muscles, how they work and how they are connected.  I could just go in and tell him what was hurting the most and he would concentrate on the trigger points affecting those areas. He could help me be able to move again.  I do not think my shoulder would have gotten better as quickly as it did if it were not for him.

However, after going to the same massage therapist for 6 months, he decided to close his shop and move away in hopes of getting more business elsewhere.

So I had to find a new masseuse.

At the recommendation of a friend, I went to see her chiropractor, who is also a licensed massage therapist.  Even though I was scheduled for a massage, I still had to talk to the doctor about my condition beforehand.  Like a lot of medical professionals that I've met over the last year and a half, she spent most of the time trying to re-diagnose me from her point of view.  I say that because it seems like every specialist sees an issue according to their bias.  A GI doctor sees a digestive issue.  A osteopathic doctor sees a lifestyle issue.  A chiropractor sees a back issue.

Are there issues with my back?  Probably.  Will they fix all my pain?  Probably not.

The chiropractor was great at giving a massage.  She actually pressed harder and found more trigger points than my last guy.  That's a good thing.  But she also wants me to come back as a chiropractic patient and get adjustments.  I'm not sure how I feel about that.

It's hard to go to doctor after doctor and get re-diagnosed each time.  They say "Oh, this (one thing) is what is wrong with you.  All you have to do is this simple exercise/stretch/diet, etc. and you will be cured."  Then I get my hopes up and I do whatever it is they are asking.  And it doesn't help.  It never helps.  And I've just spent a lot of time and energy and money.  And I've been disappointed time and again.

I don't know if I can do that again with a new doctor.

What would you do if you were me?  Would you go try the chiropractor for a while?  

Monday, June 10, 2013

May books

These are the books that I've read in May, my "other" books.  Feel free to read the list of 12 books that I'm planning to read in 2013.  You can also see all the books I've read this year and find links to their reviews on my Pinterest page.  There are affiliate links in this post.

Echoes of Titanic


(I got this book as an exchange when I took back a duplicate Christmas gift.  I've been anxious to read it for a while and I'm glad I finally got it in.)

Synopsis:  In 1912, Adele Brennan becomes one of the few to escape the sinking of the Titanic with her life.  Adele rides the rescue ship to New York to live with a father she hasn't seen for 16 years and never looks back.  She uses her natural business sense (and a few secret sources of income) to bring her father's company safely through the Great Depression and into the new century.

Now Brennan and Tate is in the capable hands of Adele's great-granddaughter, Kelsey.  But when Kelsey's boss is murdered, Kelsey starts to investigate her own company and finds that things are not what they seem to be.  Can she find the murderer in time and prevent the hostile takeover of her company?  Will working with her ex Cole Thornton help her or hinder her?

My Thoughts:  As with all of Mindy Starnes Clark's book, this one's a winner.  Great plot, great mystery, great characters.  I loved it!


(I bought the Kindle version of this at the suggestion of my brother.  It was on sale when I got it, but it's definitely worth full price.)

Synopsis: The Insanity of God is the lifelong account of searching for how God works in the hard places.  After leaving Kentucky to become missionaries, Nik and Ruth Ripkin and their three kids (pseudonyms) endured 6 hard years in Africa.  It was the mid-90's and they had been asked to minister in Somolia to those ravaged by years of civil war and famine, a place so heart-breaking and needy that Nik found it hard to figure out which need to start with.

At the end of 6 years, all relief workers were kicked out of the country and Nik was left wondering if he had really made any difference at all.  He decided to embark upon a journey of discovery.  He spent the next 15 years visiting oppressed Christians in nations hostile to the Gospel, those who have to endure imprisonment, torture and hatred because of their faith.  How is it that Christianity is flourishing in these countries?  Is God still working in places where evil abounds?  In this book, Nik shares his thoughts and conclusions on those topics and more.

My Thoughts:  Absolutely phenomenal book!  Nik Ripkin tells story after story of those who suffer so much.  It opened my eyes to what a lot of people endure in the world just because they believe in Jesus and want to tell others about Jesus.  It makes me appreciate the freedoms we have here and makes me wonder why I'm not more open with sharing Jesus to those around me.  Very convicting book.  Should be required reading for every Christian.



(I won a copy of this book through an online contest.)

Synopsis:  Two successful small business owners tell how they have used Pinterest to increase their sales.  They give tips and ideas for marketing your products on America's fastest growing social media site.

My Thoughts:  This book really wasn't for me.  First of all, it was written last year, which doesn't seem like that long ago, but with social media sites, things change lightning fast.  Some of the specifics they write about the site don't apply any more.  The book is also very much geared towards someone with a product to sell.  Since I don't have a product to sell, I didn't get a lot out of it.



(I've had this book forever, so I'm not really sure where I got it, but I'll bet it was on sale.)

Synopsis:  Are you too busy to pray?  Bill Hybels helps us slow down and remember to take time to talk to God every day.

My Thoughts:  This is my list book for the month (my fifth list book for the year, so I'm right on track).  I guess I didn't realize that this isn't actually "the book", it's a workbook that's supposed to go along with the book.  Since I've never read the actual book, I was afraid that I would be lost.   Thankfully, that was not the case.  This workbook was just wonderful and seems to be completely separate from the regular book.  It gives you a new prompt on each page with an idea for prayer.  Then it gives you space to write out a prayer for the day.  I found it was a good way to think of new and different things to pray about.  I haven't finished the whole thing, as it's more like a devotional, meant to be used over a period of time.



(I bought the Kindle version of this book as soon as it came out.  I really like Jill Savage as an author and snatch up everything she writes.)

Synopsis:  Are you a mom who is tired of trying to measure up to those lives you see on social media?  Are you unable to survive the Perfection Infection that Pinterest brings?  Are you a tired, real mom wading through the child-rearing years needing a cheerleader?  Than this is the book for you.

My Thoughts:  I've read bits and pieces of this book before, but this time I read it from cover to cover (relatively speaking, it was an e-book - no covers :)).  This time Jill Savage, the author, hosted an online Facebook book club to go along with reading the book.  I had never participated in one of those before and it was a lot of fun.  We read one chapter a week.  Jill would then post discussion questions on Tues and Thurs and we would get to have a conversation with other moms in the trenches about that chapter.

I thought the book and the idea behind the book were both just wonderful.  I constantly feel that pressure to measure up to others.  My kids don't eat healthy enough. I'm not smuggling sweet potatoes into their brownies.  My house isn't spotless or decorated well. I don't take good enough pictures.  Jill addresses all these things and more and teaches us to change our expectations in order to fight the Perfection Infection. We don't have to be perfect to be good moms! There is a website/online group that goes along with the book, that includes videos and discussion questions for each chapter.  It was just really fun and encouraging to read this book along with others.  I got a lot out of it.



(Dana White writes the humorous blog A Slob Comes Clean.  She offered an e-book sale one day.  I took her up on the offer and bought a book bundle that included this book.) 

Synopsis: After being overwhelmed by the mess in her house for years, Dana decided to do something about it.  Now you can too.  Follow her simple steps to a much saner existence.

My Thoughts:  What Dana writes about isn't rocket science.  It's coming up with daily cleaning routines and having the discipline to follow them.  In that sense I didn't learn a whole lot from this book.  However, the way she writes is just fantastic.  She's funny and conversational and you feel like she is right there in the room talking to you.  But as the title says, this book is not for the mildly disorganized.  It's really only for those who are covered up in clutter and mess and need help fast.  If that's you, read the book.  If not, I would just pass.



(I got this book through the Paperback Swap program. It's great, you should try it.)

Synopsis:  Told from the point of view of Dinah, The Red Tent follows the story of Jacob from the Bible.  It explores the lives of Jacob's four wives and their only daughter Dinah as she comes of age in a world of men.   See inside the women's tent, the red tent.

My Thoughts:  You know, I am torn about this book.  I thought the writing was great and the characters were even better.  The idea of seeing life through the red tent (the tent that women had to visit during their monthly cycles and for childbirth) is very intriguing.  But I can't get over the fact that she messed with the Bible in the sense that this book does not agree with the Biblical account.  Even though the author makes it clear that she is writing a novel and not a historical account, I still get upset when people mess with the Bible and reinterpret the stories.  I can't in good conscience recommend this book.  If it was just a fiction book about people not in the Bible, than I would have loved it.  But not this way.

I have read 8 books this month, the ones listed above as well as Take a Chance on Me.  That brings my total up to 33 for the year.  I think I'll make my 40 book goal.  Feel free to check out my Pinterest board to find all the reviews.

Friday, June 7, 2013

Here's to Summer

Hey everyone!

We have been having a good time this week just relaxing and playing, which is why the posts have been few and far between.

I could have taken the time to write more posts, but instead I was with these guys:


Relaxing -

and swimming -

I was also discovering that my kids love to cut up strawberries and that they want to build a strawberry factory in their grandparents' back yard (that's where the strawberries came from) and cut them up for $3 a batch, but Julie says the price is negotiable.




And I've been cheering the A's on at baseball games:


We have a 15-4-1 record at the moment.  I'd say that's a pretty good record for Little League ball.

And, unfortunately, today I'm taking care of a sick child.  I wish that stomach viruses would occur only in the winter, but, no, most of our worst ones have been summer ones.

Sigh.

Except for the sick part, it's been a really fun week.  Next week day camps start and it will get a little busier for a while.  If I don't post a lot, realize that it's because I've gone from watching kids 5 hours a day (at least 5 waking hours) and having 7 hours of non-kid time a day to watching them 12+ hours a day and having virtually no non-kid time.  So that means a lot less me time and a lot less blog time.

But I'm OK with that.  My number one job is to take care of my kids.  They grow up so fast and there won't be many more summers where they can play all day and where they still want to do some of that playing with me.

So here's to summer, to long, lazy days, to playing baseball and swimming in the lazy river.  Here's to more hours of daylight, and sleeping in, to popsicles and ice cream and dinners on the grill.

I'm ready to enjoy it!  How about you?

(Money Saving Mom has a great post on why it's OK to break the blogging rules.  It's a great read and goes right along with this post.)

Monday, June 3, 2013

Alternative Medicine: Alternative Therapy

Dreamstime stock photo - source
Other posts in this series:
What is an alternative medicine doctor and what do they do?
What testing do you get when you choose alternative medicine?
What is a detox diet and why do you do it?
What supplements and shakes do they recommend?
Results of the food sensitivities testing.

It's now been about 6 weeks since I've (knowingly) eaten gluten.  And I haven't felt too much of a difference.  In general I feel like my digestion is a little bit easier, less of the "overly full" feeling after meals, but I'm also on digestive enzymes and tons of probiotics, so who's to say which of those things is making the difference.  And if I don't feel better does that mean I'm not finding the right combination of foods to cut out or does it mean that food isn't really my problem?  Argh!

But first let me tell you about the rest of my test results.

Gut Issues

As the doctor mentioned on my first visit, osteopathic doctors concentrate a lot on the gut.  80% of your immune response comes from your gut.  Some people call it your second brain.  So, obviously, a lot of my testing revolved around my gut.  Turns out I don't have enough good bacteria in my gut.  No surprise there.  Remember back in November when I had that C-diff infection?  Yeah, that really screwed everything up in there.

I also have too much yeast in my gut.  Those two things go together, not enough good bacteria to kill off yeast, so it overgrows.  Then when I have too much yeast, all the sugar and carbs that I eat just make the yeast grow (like when you activate yeast to use in a bread recipe).  So, even if the not eating gluten doesn't make me feel tons better, at least not eating it means I'm eating less carbs and it helps stop the yeast from growing.  In light of those results, they "prescribed" high doses of probiotics in these little packets of powder that I mix in with my shake every day.  Hopefully it will even everything out in my gut and get all the bacteria in the right amounts again.  The doctor also recommended I drink Kefir every day, which is like pourable yogurt.  So I've been putting that in my shake too.  Lots of stuff goes in that shake.

OK, so what else is wrong with me?

Heavy Metals

Well, I did a test that looked for heavy metals in my blood.  And they found some.  Lead and antimony.  I have no clue how they got there.  I look at the lists online of ways that you can get lead in your blood and nothing on the list seems to apply to me.  But it's there.

So how do you get rid of lead?  Depends on who you ask.  According to the doctor in Atlanta, I need to do a process called chelation, which is an IV therapy.  They inject you with a chelating agent which binds to the heavy metal and helps it find its way out of your body.  The downside?  Chelating also helps other minerals that you need, such as calcium find their way out of your body too.  People have died from losing too much calcium after doing chelation.  On the flip side, the same article says that there is a "low occurrence of side effects when used at the dose and infusion rates approved by the US FDA as a treatment for heavy metal poisoning."

OK.  Then I have a doctor (non-alternative, regular doctor) telling me that heavy metals are quickly excreted from the body and I don't have to do anything special to get them out.  But my osteopathic doctor and my research online tells me that heavy metals are only slowly excreted and that they build up over time because of this.  Meaning that I need to do something extra, like chelation, to help them out.  So which one is true?  I have no clue, but it's hard for me to believe that I was recently exposed to lead and that it just so happens that I had high levels of it at the time of the test.  I don't know where I would have been exposed to it in the past, but I feel like that's a more likely scenerio than current exposure.  Argh!  I hate it when the "experts" disagree.

Viral Load

Lastly, they tested my viral load, meaning how much of previous viruses that I have had are still lurking around in my system.  Two viruses stood out and they both make sense.  The Epstein Barr virus, the one that causes mono and chronic fatigue syndrome, is incredibly high.  I had mono in high school and I've heard that it never actually leaves your system.  A high level can cause fatigue and low energy, basically as if you have chronic mono. 

The other is the micoplasm, or walking pneumonia, virus.  Seeing as walking pneumonia is very common in East TN and I've had it half a dozen times over the last 10 years that I've lived here, I can believe that my levels are high.  Once again that can cause fatigue and low energy.

How do you fix that?  Well, according to a traditional doctor, you don't.  You just live with it and all the levels will go down in time.  Seeing as I had mono 18 years ago, I kind of doubt that one will go down in time.  According to an osteopathic doctor, you do more IV therapy - oxidative IV therapy.  The websites that I have found about oxidative IV therapy say that they inject your blood with hydrogen peroxide, that it's all natural and it's all good.  Yet, the state of TN doesn't allow people to give out the therapy here.  Why would the state not allow it if there are no side effects and only benefits?

So I guess in all this I'm left with more questions than answers.  Is not eating gluten really making a difference?  Should I be cutting out all grains instead of just gluten?  Should I really do the chelation?  What about the oxidative IV therapy?  To do that, I have to pay a lot and drive to Atlanta a lot.  And the biggest question of all, is any of this really going to make a difference in my pain?

I don't have any answer to any of this right now.  If any of you have any advice or any experience with this, I would love to hear what you have to say.